Growth & Feelings of Shame

As a therapist, I get to witness very frequently what emotions such as guilt, shame, and self-loathing do to people. I get hear their stories about past regrets and situations they wish could have been different all the time, and I am usually left reflecting on my own life. The decisions I’ve made and the consequences I’ve had to live with. It is in these moments that we get the choice of how we will view and feel about ourselves, and what I know to be true in my own life, is that we can be very harsh critics. We seem to have a tendency of looking ourselves in the mirror and judging so drastically that we convince our minds that we are bad people.

How could I have been so stupid?

Why didn’t I see it coming?

Why wouldn’t I listen to anyone?

What I have observed, more often than not, is that we seem to value being hard on ourselves. Maybe because it shows others that we won’t let ourselves get off the hook or that we are not arrogant or selfish. There seems to be a socially accepted norm around loathing ourselves, at least until it begins to impact the experience of others. Some of the best stand up comics will perform an entire set poking fun at themselves to the point of presenting themselves as someone who cannot do anything right. Of course, we laugh and admire at their ability to “laugh at themselves”, which can be an important skill, but what happens when it is taken too far? What if our guilt or self-loathing becomes feelings of shame? Emotions that begin to influence our behaviour in ways that don’t make us happy? This is the shadow side of laughing at ourselves and the guilty feelings we experience when we realize we’ve done something to hurt oneself or another. Instead of focusing on what we have to learn from the experience we become hyper focused on what we’ve done and attach judgement to ourselves.

From the perspective of spirit it is important to remember that there is no judgement of who you are as a unique soul. Instead, what is focused on is what you chose to do after having the experience.

How did you change your life because of it?

Do you seek more love or try harder to avoid fear?

Are you making different choices than before?

What are you letting in to your life and what are you keeping out?

The growth is what matters, not what label you attach to yourself. In truth, many of us will set up specific life events pre-incarnation in order to answer these questions. In many cases it is not about what you did, but how you grew from the experience, and are you willing to make positive change moving forward? “Positive” being a relative term since you can be the only one who decides what is helpful vs. unhelpful in your life. When we focus on attaching a judgement to ourselves we are also simultaneously choosing to ignore the opportunity for growth that is being presented to us. Something Archangel Gabriel told me once was “there is no room for growth if we are focused on condemning who we are”, and I’ve needed reminding of that from time to time. If we choose to focus on growth then it is practically like choosing to be more like the ascended masters we all look up to. Consider this for a moment: Since masters like Jesus, the Buddha, or Mohammad were all human at one point, are we really going to believe that they never had bad days? Never made a choice that they had the opportunity to feel bad about? They are definitely wonderful benevolent beings, but physical incarnation literally means we are going to experience some difficult choices.

A belief that I have chosen to adopt is that they did not so much behave perfectly as they chose to focus on growing from each experience to the fullest extent they could. In doing so, they guaranteed that when faced with the same decision again they would know what they prefer to have happen instead of what simply “has happened in the past”. Kind of gives a new spin on the catch phrase “what would Jesus do” 🙂

Something I would encourage each and every one of you to consider is when you have the opportunity to be hard on yourself try loving yourself instead. If you catch yourself saying something negative about your life, your situation, your body, your job, instead try to say something nice. If you are being faced with a very emotionally challenging situation then try to focus on how you can grow as a soul as opposed to how trying life is.

Difficult, I know… But so very very worth it!

The angels don’t like making many guarantees because that’s not really their thing, but if it were, they would most likely guarantee that if you do this your life will improve, even slightly. Besides, I’m hard pressed to think of a situation that is hindered by a little bit of compassionate love 🙂

Unitl next time, I love you all!!

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The Ocean (A Parable)

I recently took a trip to the sunshine state of California alongside my wife with the intention of getting some much needed rest and relaxation from our everyday lives. Outside of my spiritual life I find myself constantly surrounded by the regular issues we all face such as workplace stress, balancing budgets, and taking our dogs for their trips to the vet. It takes it’s toll over time and we felt if was a great opportunity to get away. While out exploring one afternoon we ended up at one of the local beaches and I couldn’t help the urge to put my feet in warm Pacific waters. As soon as the blue water touched my feet I was instantly taken over by several profound realizations about the ocean and how deeply connected we are to it spiritually. The ocean has many things to teach us and there has been countless poems, songs, and stories written about it relating all that it has to offer.

In this particular moment though I felt instantly aware of a story the ocean was trying to tell me, so I breathed in deep, and did my best to listen:

Long ago, the ocean was an artist. The ocean spent all the time it could creating canvases of brilliant scenes and landscapes, never quite satisfied with a finished product and constantly choosing to start over and over again. Attempting perfection with every creation had a great toll on the ocean though and the children began to grow weary of waiting endlessly for the ocean to create it’s final masterpiece. A masterpiece in which they could all finally live and call home, together as a family. 

One day, after discarding it’s latest work in a fit of frustration and sadness, the ocean decided to converse with the only being it believed would be able to understand what it was ultimately trying to accomplish. The ocean knew that the only being of equal creating power to itself was the sky and one afternoon the ocean opened itself up and explained it’s situation with a heavy heart.

Sky, I have laboured long and desperately to create a home for my children. One that is perfect and without flaw, one in which we can all live together and provide the children with opportunities to become creators themselves. I have dreamed this dream for so long that I feel it is but mere steps away from completion, but every time I believe I have finished it I find a flaw. I know that my children will be left unsatisfied and therefore I must start over. I see how you have a created such a beautiful home for your children, the clouds and stars always seem so happy, so content. Please, tell me the secret that I am unaware of. Tell me the secret of perfect creation.

The sky considered the ocean’s request for a moment and then spoke lovingly what he knew to be true. 

“Sweet ocean, what makes you believe that I have ever created something so perfect that I deem my work to be done? I am an artist just as you are, dear ocean, therefore I believe my work is never done. The service I provide to my children, the stars and clouds, is the same as what you do for your children. The only difference between you and I, sweet friend, is that I find peace in knowing the process of creation is never finished, while you seem unsatisfied feeling that your job is never done. Tell me my friend, do you not enjoy creating homes for your children? Do you not see how the service you provide for them creates love and joy in their lives? Why would you ever want that to end? You are an artist dear ocean, embrace what you know as your creations and let your children settle where they please. Join me in finding happiness knowing our work is never done and our service to our children will never be truly finished.”.

All at once, the ocean understood and wept with joy as he realized how lonely he would be if suddenly he could never create for his children again. All at once, the ocean understood the gift he had been given and desired more strongly than ever to be at peace with his children. The ocean saw for the first time that his children would always need new homes and embraced this as her strongest passion. And so the ocean still creates homes for her children and embraces the journey she is on, finding happiness in the creating process as opposed to finding its end.

The ocean spoke this to me as I watched the waves crash in to the shoreline and leave behind beautiful pictures as the water receded. It reminds me that we are all creators and that we can find peace in embracing the journey as opposed to finding it’s end.

Until next time, I love you all

Geoff

Geoff

Actually Helping People

We live in a helping culture, there is no doubt of this, especially if you check out the self-help section of any book store or review the list of inspirational speakers who may be touring through your town.  Since I am an optimist, I would say that the majority of the people who put out this kind of material are genuinely in tune with the vibration of service and giving back.  If that author or speaker makes enough money that they can continue their work full time, or simply provide just enough to put food on the table, then that is good enough.  It’s about the service and not necessarily all about the money.

 

I myself have been involved in a helping field for the better part of ten years and have pursued education that will allow me to continue that work full time.  I have no delusions towards the concept of making money for helping people and I understand that it is important to value the services you provide.  However, something that the Archangels (Michael specifically) has helped me with understanding is that it is more about why you are providing the service than what the service is.  In order to investigate the “Why” on a deeper level I chose to approach it from the perspective of “how do we actually help another person?”.  There are a plethora of metaphors that exist, both in spiritual circles as well as the non-spiritual world, that are used to help explain the process of healing.  Some are contradictory while others are complimentary of each other. 

 

For example, the idea of “putting on your own mask before assisting another” and “fill your own cup” could be considered complimentary, while at the same time they could be contradictory to the notions of “everyone needs a teacher” and “always ask for help when you need it”.  

 

What is right and what isn’t?

 

I feel that most individuals would be able to agree that both philosophies have their merit and are helpful in their own way for the right people.  Some individuals are in need of believing that there are people out there who really do care about them, while others need to develop their own abilities to survive and flourish despite the challenges they face.  However, for those of us in the helping professions, and more specifically those who work with people on a spiritual or psychological level, how do these philosophies lead to transformation?  

 

How do we actually help people?  I’ll fill you in on the Archangel perspective, and while it is only a single perspective, I know that you will like it:

 

Understand dear one, that you are not the one that changes another person, only that person can do anything that will bring about change in their respective physical reality.  However, with that being said, the helper does have a key role to play in the healing of another person, and that role is to act as both a space opener and an example of what is possible.  First, you must see yourself as the facilitator of an open creative space in which individuals can feel free to enter in to and safe to share what it is that they are experiencing.  This space must be filled with large volumes of love and supported structurally by strong pillars made of non-judgement.  This space will feel refreshing and airy, but most of all it will feel inspiring, as if every one of their wonderful dream can be attained by simply walking in and sharing their inner most desires.  At first, it may seem impossible to feel that free, that open, and that safe, but over time the helper will continue to develop the space with the appropriate frequency that makes it just right for the soul in need of sanctuary.  This frequency harbours exactly the kind of emotions necessary for reintegration with true passion and the love of the infinite, all knowing source.

 

Secondly, the helper must not only display, but radiate the kind of high frequencies that are possible when growth and love combine within someone.  This is not to say that the helper must be smarter, or stronger than the one seeking help, but simply that they have an understanding of what it feels like to be at peace.  A basic belief that returning to joy is possible, and truly, your divine right as a being in creation.  By shining your own light, dear one, you show that transformation is less about achieving and more about feeling.  While the journey towards enlightenment, or whatever word you like best, is never truly finished, the helper has the ability to channel their own light so that the helped may bask in it, acting as a reminder of what is already waiting for them.  What is rightfully there’s and how close it actually is, if only they are willing to believe it for themselves.  This belief will become a knowing and the knowing will ignite the flame of self-love with them, healing any wound that physically reality can co-create.  

 

We are the Archangels, lovers of the human soul, and we will stay with you always and forever.

 

We are all helpers, but we are also those who will need help from time to time, embrace this aspect of yourself and never be afraid to shine your light.  Just as we are all masters and students at the same time remember that the journey never ends and you are part of something so immensely wonderful that words will never be enough to describe.

 

Until next time,

My unconditional love to you all.

Geoff 

The Self in all Things

“The purpose of things in life is not for you to love them, but to love the Self in all things”

 

– The Upanishads

 

One of the key spiritual concepts that exists all over the world is loving the world in its entirety, which (depending on the day) may seem like an effortless task or an impossible feat.  In my last blog entry I spoke about the death of my grandfather and how it brought a wave emotional turmoil over me.  I had never been very close with him and I would be lying if I denied experiencing anger towards the man over my life.  In fact, one of my greatest challenges with becoming more spiritual, and connecting with the Archangels, has been in the category of forgiveness, which Sandy (my grandfather) was supposed to help teach me.  The difficult truth is, we don’t learn forgiveness from those who are nice to us, we learn it from those who trespass against us, who hurt us, who ignore, cheat, steal, and lie to us.  We come to learn forgiveness only after we have identified how carrying the baggage of anger and pain hold us back from having the kind of life we really want to live.  A life that is filled with joy and happiness, free of all the low vibrational frequencies that tag along with painful memories.          

 

The quote you see above is a teaching of Krishna from Upanishads which is a very sacred text of the Hindu religion.  When I read it, I suddenly found myself viewing my relationship with Sandy in a very different way and I was finally able to see the view from the mountain top as opposed to the view from the valley.  The truth is that I was deeply disappointed and hurt by the lack of relationship with my grandfather; I felt forgotten and not important.  I was angry with him and expressed that anger on a regular basis, angry at the way he treated my mother, my father, the favouritism, the perceived lack of empathy.  Most of all, I was angry at being denied a relationship with the only grandfather I had ever known.  I could not bring myself to feel love for this man, and for that, I was angry at myself.  Someone once told me that “what makes me special is that I love loving”, I was angry at myself because I couldn’t feel love for him.

 

The quote from the Upanishads is enlightening for me because it revealed a hidden truth about those who we quarrel with, fight with, disagree with, or engage in any form of low vibrational frequency with.  It showed me that it is not about loving someone in spite of the upsetting behaviour they may engage in, but instead loving them because their is a piece of the infinite in them.  

 

Therefore, there is a piece of you in that person.

 

Love the Self in all things, for it is that kind of love that is healing and free of all judgements.  It is free of judgement because you cannot truly judge the infinite without judging yourself.  Try saying that ten times fast 🙂

 

What I am really trying to say is this:

My grandfather, even though he was unable to express it, loved me very deeply and meant no harm by the way he chose to experience physical reality.  His choices may not have appeared to be beneficial for me, but the lessons he had to teach me were not of a direct nature.  They were subtle and meant to be indirect, they were to be revealed when I was ready and able to receive them in their full capacity.  They were not the easy lessons nor were they fun, but what they did turn out to be was incredibly profound and relieving.  The fact that he existed in my physical reality was a gift, perhaps not a gift by our traditional definition, but through spiritual eyes, there is no gift more powerful.  

 

Love the Self that resides within the person or people who do not treat you the way you want them do.  Honour the fact that they signed up to teach you the hardest lessons as opposed to letting someone else do it.  They cared and loved you to such an extent that they chose to uphold that responsibility, take on that karma, and push you to new levels of evolution and expansion you didn’t think possible.  The ones who abuse and mistreat you are quite possibly (from a spiritual perspective) the ones who love you the very most.  

 

Let that sink in for a moment a take a deep breath.   

 

It is normal to feel angry with those who have hurt you, and it is sometimes expected that you could experience the frequency of hate.  However, at some point you will have a decision to make with respect to how you carry on in your life.  Will you choose to hold on to that low vibrational frequency and let it dictate how you experience physical reality, or will you choose to love the Self that resides in all things and be at peace with the divine love that exists for you?

 

I’m not saying that it is easy or even that it happens quickly because I can personally attest that it is neither.  However, with the help of my grandfather, the angels, my wonderful wife, my family and all those around me (both physically and non-physically) it is getting easier.  

 

Until next time,

 

My absolute unconditional love to you all!

 

Geoff

Going Home

I’ve taken a small break from writing recently to focus my attention on finishing my graduate degree, which for those who have under taken such a task, I’m sure, will empathize.  That being said, while the writing has slowed down the spiritual work has not and I feel more lucid with my communications with the Archangels than ever before.  What started as a routine vacation away from the daily grind of 3 dimensional life has turned in to a full on spiritual awakening in its own rite.  In order to understand what I mean I’ll have to provide you with some background information first.

 

About 1 week ago my grandfather fell ill and was rushed to the hospital on the west coast of Canada where he has lived for the majority of his life.  His illness timed itself well, in the sense that a good majority of my family would be on the west coast around the same time and we would be able to visit him.  However, the prognosis was not good and our visits turned in to saying goodbye and making peace.  Since I did not have a strong relationship with the man, and he had not shown a great interest in having a relationship with me, I fell more in to the later category.   My attention turned to being present for my mother who was now losing her father and the benefits of having a son who talks to angels was definitely appreciated at this time.  On Friday April 4th at approximately 10am Brian “Sandy” Pearson, my grandpa, left the physical plane to meet with his guides and begin anew.

 

At first I didn’t suspect I would have any communication with my guides with respect to my grandfather’s transition to the world of light, but I was happily mistaken.  They shared in detail what his transition was like up until he had completed what they refer to as “The Review” and only after that did the messages cease.  It was a great comfort to my mother and I was blessed to be able to share it with her.  It also provided a small window of opportunity where I could speak with my grandfather while in a meditative state and be honest with him, which was a luxury I never took advantage of while he was here in physical form.  The details of that conversation will stay between myself and my grandfather, but suffice it to say, it moved me deeply.  The fear of death is something that afflicts the human race very strongly and I would count my grandfather as one of those who resisted death until he could resist it no more.  In the end, his transition was beautiful and the next great journey for him will begin just as it does for all of us.  

 

The end becomes the new beginning, it is the nature of souled being, and it is beautiful.

 

The Archangel Collective speaks of the transition process in a manner that feels more like going home.  Like waking from a dream, you feel a sense of euphoria knowing that you are once again in the light of the divine and unconditional love.  More than anything, what I have learned from my grandfather’s passing is just how much there is still to learn about compassion and it’s need for nurturing within the human spirit.  If there is someone in your life (especially family) who you feel lowers your ability to experience high vibrational frequency then I can only suggest one thing.  Feel as much compassion for that person as you possibly can and remember that all is as it should be in the heart of creation and the mind of God.  

You are loved and loved completely.

The Archangels wish you to know that more than anything 🙂

 

Grandpa, good luck in your journey and until we meet again!

 

My unconditional love to you all (even you Sandy),

 

Geoff

 

Support vs. Intervention

I was asked an interesting question last week and it inspired me to write about a topic that is heavily misunderstood in our current society.  It has to do with our expectations of benevolent beings such as angels, spirit guides, and of course God.  The question was as follows:

 

“If I have a guardian angel with me then why have they allowed me to suffer?” 

 

To be honest, this is a fair question and the Archangels have an incredible perspective on this idea, but truthfully if you have to ask the question it usually indicates that you are not ready to hear the answer.  Therefore, consider this your “heads up” before continuing to read and please remember that this is just their perspective and nothing more.  You must look within and decide for yourself what feels right and real to you, they have no desire to convince you of anything.  With that being said, let us examine it from their perspective.

 

First of all, they wish you to know that in their eyes you are an equal to them in every way.  You are neither below them or above them, you are just as they are, a piece of creation and therefore a piece of God.  The ONLY difference that exists (keeping in mind that difference is only experienced by you and not by them) is that they reside in a different frequency than you currently do being that you are in physical form.  They are energetic beings vibrating at the level of pure unconditional love, that which is closely resembling the love of the one infinite creator / Source / God / etc.  

 

Because they have this knowing of the God-nature that resides with in you they have not the capacity or the desire to intervene in your life in any way, shape or form.  That which has been called Divine Intervention does not really exist as you have defined it.  There is no being “pulling the strings” and deciding who gets protection and who doesn’t.  Everyone is entitled to protection, but the word that probably best describes how their influence is felt is that of support.  It is very true that some individuals have experienced moments in their life where it appears that someone or something prevented a catastrophe from happening, or at least happening to them and I would not suggest that you are wrong.  However, what I would suggest is reframing exactly what took place with respect to the perspective held by the Archangels.  

 

They are not the ones who pull the car off of the child who is in danger of being crushed.  It is the mother who performs this act with the assistance of the angels, but without the mother this act could not take place.  The angel simply lends it’s support and assistance to you during a time of need and nothing more, for it is you who must make the decision to act.  And then, there is the case of the question posed earlier which concerns the nature of “bad things” happening to us and the experience of suffering.  Why are they not lending their support during those times and why must I suffer alone?  Why don’t they do anything to stop it?

 

Again, they recognize and value the creator God with in you, and if YOU have attracted or created a specific experience or set of experiences in your physical reality, then it would be an act against free will to intervene.  Remember, taking responsibility for ones life means that you take responsibility for the bad things and not just the good.  Everything you experience, on one level or another, is by an act of choice.

 

Everything. Period.  

 

For some, this will sound blunt and callous, for that I send you my love and my empathy.  My intention is not to diminish your feelings or burden you with guilt over creating a traumatic experience.  However, the first step in solving any personal issue is by first admitting that their is a problem and taking responsibility for it.  The good news is that just as one can feel defeated by the realization that they have created and co-created the events in their life, so to can an individual feel empowered by the knowing that they have the power to change it.  It is at this point that we turn our attention back to the good news, which is the fact that you are never alone on your journey of self-discovery and healing.  This is where the angels and Archangels have the most interest in working with you and lending their support.

 

Your guardian angel or angels are their to assist you during your times of need and provide you with guidance and protection when needed.  What this really means is that they work with you on an energetic level to maintain, increase, or change the frequencies you are vibrating at during any given moment.  They are not diving in front of a bullet for you, so to speak, but instead take the approach of helping you make decisions that avoid the bullet all together.  If you really really insist on having an experience that is dangerous and has the potential to cause you grave harm then there is nothing they can do to stop you.  However, they will try to send you messages that they are there and want you to be safe.  

 

The same angel guides are typically with you for the entirety of your physical existence, however there are some instances where different ones will come and go depending on the kind of assistance you need.  Certain angelic beings may have a particular interest in one part of your life  and therefore want to be close with you, either because you asked them to prior to incarnating or because they have a speciality they wish to share with you.  Perhaps, there is an important lesson that you must learn with respect to being compassionate, during a difficult and trying time in your life.  There may be a master angel or Archangel who understands the kind of support you will need in order to best amalgamate the experience in to your awareness and ultimately accelerate your spiritual growth.  

 

But…

 

You are still privy to free will and therefore the choices you make are completely your own.  The strongest guardian angel in all of creation could not intervene to change the outcome of anyone’s life.  They will not do this, because they respect the god or goddess with in you that is capable of creating miracles.  That is not to say that they will not help co-create a miraculous event with you, for nothing brings them greater joy than assisting you in whatever your greatest passion is.  That may be in the formation of a fulfilling career, a masterful piece of artwork, or a new born child. 

 

With that being said, to answer the initial question, there is no being (angel or otherwise) that is causing your suffering in the first place other than what you have attracted and agreed upon on your own.  They are not just standing by and apathetically watching you feel pain, for this is not their desire and is most certainly not what they want to see you experience.  However, they respect and admire you for the fact that having these painful experiences can create catapult like jumps in your spiritual evolution.  They feel a sense of honour that you would allow them the privilege of being apart of your reality in whatever form you allow them to.

 

So what exactly do they do when you are in pain?   

 

They get as close as they possible can to you, both physically and energetically, and love you with as much power as exists within all of creation.  Just as you pray that they surround you in times of need, they pray with the same amount of conviction, that you will feel their presence and the intensity of the love they have for you.

 

Until next time,

 

My unconditional love to you and the beings who guide you 🙂

 

Geoff

Realism

Every person on this planet, let alone every spiritual practitioner, has a “hot button” topic of discussion.  Something that they feel so passionate about, something that they have researched, studied, and meditated about, almost to the point of exhaustion, that they can’t help but react to when the chance arrives.  For some people it is politics, for others it is medical vaccinations, still others fret over dogs versus cats.  

 

For myself, it is the idea of being “realistic”.

 

We have all said it and we have all hid behind the allure and safety of this word over the course of our lives.  I am definitely no exception to this statement and I won’t pretend otherwise.  More to the point, I would say that a large majority of my life was governed by the “rules of being realistic” and therefore I have no problem staking claim as a former “realism expert”.  By expert, I mean that I allowed the limitations of realism to control my life and determine a vast majority of decisions I had to make.  There are few things in my life that led me to more sadness than believing that certain actions or ways of thinking were “realistic” and therefore the proper way to function within society.  

 

I would like to make one thing very clear:

 

You create your reality, so therefore, whatever you believe to be true about the world you live in can be considered what IS realistic.  

 

Nothing more and nothing less. 

 

Now, the common argument to this claim, that which is ushered by the so called “realists”, is one of questioning the so deemed “random acts of chaos, violence, and inhumanity” which occur in our world every day.  Why do these things occur?  Do people ask to be hurt, tortured, and to suffer in pain?  It is a good question and one that is important to address when having this discussion.  I am not suggesting to anyone who reads this that when bad things happen to someone they deserve it or that there is justification in blaming the victim.  That argument is not only false, but dangerous when supported.  However, the fact remains that we create our own reality, which leads us right back to where we left off.  How can we possibly accept these concepts when there is so much hurt happening around us?

 

While I won’t attempt to explain the entire process in one blog post, what I will suggest to you is that if you are only fixated on the pain that you experience than you are only connecting to one aspect of existence.  You are making the conscious choice to connect solely to the pain you have experienced, which you are allowing to become your reality.  Children, animals, the elderly, all of the “innocent people” we see being taken advantage of are in one way or another shaping the reality that exists around them.  

To those of you who have experienced severe trauma in your life, I would first wish to say to you how loved you truly are and that you are worthy and beautiful just the way you are.  You are not damaged, you are not worthless, and you are definitely not broken.  However, being someone who has never experienced torture, rape, violence, and cruelty I cannot tell you that I know what you are going through.  That would be a lie and a disrespect to those who have.  However, I encourage those who resonate with this to watch the following video of spiritual leader Teal Scott who endured some of the most horrific means of suffering imaginable.  Not only did she survive, but she has now thrived in a world that welcomes her teachings and wisdom about love and acceptance.

 

http://www.askteal.com/videos/if-we-create-our-own-reality-how-do-you-explain-suffering

 

This may have appeared to be a side track, but I know that it is important to address before getting in to the real thickness of the topic.  So, what does this have to do with being “realistic”?  If you are currently in a profession or job that you do not like it may cross your mind to look for another employment opportunity that will make you happier.  This scenario is not only prevalent in the world right now, but it is expanding and growing faster than anyone can control.  This is happening because people are waking up spiritually and realizing how little joy they are experiencing.  But what if that person who wishes to find a new career says to themselves:

 

“Well, I should be realistic about my expectations”.

“I only have so much education, so it will be hard to find my dream job”

“There’s so much competition for the kind of work I’m looking for”

“I should just be realistic”

 

As stated previously, you create your own reality, so why on Earth would you wish to create a reality that automatically sets up road blocks and difficulty for yourself?  What is the benefit to thinking, acting, and feeling this way?  Most people who call themselves “realists” will use the explanation of not wanting to set themselves up for a let down, when IN REALITY all they are doing IS setting themselves up for failure.  You are deliberately creating a world for yourself that holds you back and restricts your creativity, your imagination, the amount of joy you can experience, and of course the amount of love in your life.  

 

There is an important difference I would like to point out to those who are struggling with this concept and especially to those who are practicing spiritual means of living in this physical reality.  If you are trying to remain open and create a world for yourself that is literally “limitless” you may run in to the occasional situation that is challenging and does cause you to experience the feeling of having a “set back”.  However, there is no reason to doubt yourself and settle back on the old stand by of “keeping it real”.  

 

What you are really striving to achieve is the practice of non-resistance to what is.   

 

You are not supposed to deny what is and pretend that things are wonderful when they are not.  This would be an act of resistance, which will only create more of what you do not want to see in your wonderful reality.  Instead of thinking of things in terms of what is realistic simply allow yourself to practice non-resistance and acceptance of what is happening.  Instead of shaming the world or yourself, ask yourself questions and be honest with yourself.  

 

“What have I been feeling that would warrant attracting this in to my life?”

“Have I been denying something?”

“Have I been ignoring my true feelings?”

 

Here is the main difference that you must understand about these two ways of being:

 

Being realistic is a passive form of co-creation where you believe that you have little control (if any) over the events that take place in your life.  You choose to settle for what is safe and lower your standards of what you believe you need to be happy.  You think less of people and their capacity to care about you or their desire to help.    

 

Being non-resistant to what is would be considered an active form of co-creation where you acknowledge that you are creating what you see around you.  You take responsibility for what you are seeing and feeling and make conscious decisions about what you would prefer to see.  You believe in a world that supports you and wants you to be happy, but also that it will be honest with you.  In turn, you are not afraid of being honest with yourself and are willing to act on what you discover.

 

I know this has been a long winded post, but as you can probably tell I am very passionate about it, and therefore, have a lot to say.  If you are someone who considers yourself a realist, know that this post is not meant to offend you or make you feel inferior in any way.  I simply wish to lovingly challenge your beliefs and ask you: 

 

Does the world reflect the type of life you want to live?  

 

If it does and you are happy with your realistic approach to life then ignore everything that I have said and know that I value and appreciate your perspective.  However, if you feel that there is something missing in your life, then join us on what you perceive to be the dark side.

 

We have cookies 🙂

 

Until next time,

 

My unconditional love to you all

 

Geoff  

Love: A New Perspective

Over the last few days I have spent a considerable amount of time pondering what my next blog post should encompass.  Until this point, much of my time in meditation has been spent on writing my first book and blog ideas have fallen by the wayside.  However, the answer came while doing one of my walking meditations this morning and the angels gave me one word and one word only.

 

That word was love.

 

At first I was a little bit overwhelmed at the idea of tackling such a large topic and attempting to put such a complicated emotion in to words.  One of the fundamental teachings that the Archangels have passed on to me is that love is not something that can be understood by the physical mind alone.  It is a matter only understood by the heart and therefore is not truly defined by words or chemical equations.  Scientists have spent years attempting to understand the scientific process of love and even how it is created within the body, but their understanding of what love really is falls drastically short.  For example, it is universally accepted that the hormone oxytocin is a critical component in the experience of love and no one will deny this is true.  However, if someone was to take a large amount of oxytocin in the form of medication it would not replicate the experience of falling in love, exactly at least.  

 

Another way of looking at this scenario is with individuals who are medicated for symptoms of depression.  Serotonin is a hormone that is typically found to be in lower levels in those who are clinically depressed and a common treatment for depression is to take medication that boosts serotonin in the body.  However, boosting serotonin does not actually make the person feel happier, all it does is make them less sad and there is a big difference between experiencing true happiness and just feeling less sad.  If you were to fall out of a tree and break your leg the doctors would most definitely prescribe morphine to help ease the pain, but the morphine does not actually heal the pain.  The leg is still broken, the only difference is you no longer experience the pain of it.

 

With that being said, where does that leave us with our understanding of love?  What I would suggest to those of you interested in this topic is to first consider expanding what you think love is currently.  Expand your understanding of what love is from just a mental process or even an emotional process and consider it as a force within nature.  Love is not just what you feel when you are attracted to another person.  

 

Love IS the attraction 

 

It is love that which pulls you towards another person, it can be compared in the same way that the moon directs the tides.  In order to fully understand this idea you have to put your logical scientific mind aside for a brief moment because it will get in the way of your ability to comprehend this.  Your logical mind wants to tell you that the moon directs the tides by way of its gravitational pull on the oceans and I am not suggesting that this is false.  I am only suggesting that there can be more than one way of explaining the phenomenon.  What the Archangels are proposing is simply the idea that in the same way love directs you towards another human being the moon directs the oceans of the Earth.  It is an act of love and a force of nature.  Love is what governs everything, everything that occurs in our physical reality.  It is a guiding force within our lives in ways that our logical minds can understand and in ways that it cannot.  We cannot chemically create true love anymore than we can halt the moon from directing the tides.  What we can do is call upon the force of love in our lives and allow it to help direct us, just as the moon does.  

 

If we call upon love to help direct us what we are literally doing is allowing loving energy to be a co-creator in our lives which means that our lives will suddenly become more wonderful and exciting.  This is one of the ways that the Archangels explain God to me, in metaphors such as the moon and the tides, the sun and the planets, all creating a system that is governed by the forces of love.  Love is a way of life, not just a collection of chemicals surging through the human body.  Those chemicals allow us to feel the physical sensations of love, but they are just the physical manifestations of a greater guiding power.  Remember, when you have an opportunity to practice love in your life, take it.  It can only bring you more love.

 

Until next time,

 

My unconditional love to you,

 

Geoff    

 

Is the World Changing?

This is a big question.

 

For some individuals the answer will be an easy yes or no, while others may sit in the shades of grey for a period of time.  They may weigh current events they have observed throughout the world in order to discover which way the balance of energy is tipping towards, and in truth this can provide a starting point from which to work with.  Before I share with you the Archangel’s perspective I will lay out the common foley that captivates humankind when making these kinds of observations.  That foley occurs when we trust the illusion of physical reality to tell us what we should be thinking and feeling, instead of the other way around.  It is not a new concept that physical reality is a mirror image of our internal world, and it is this fact that directs us towards the answer to this question. 

 

From Angelic perspective, each individual has their own version of reality and therefore has their own take on what is happening in the world right now.  The discussions I have with the Archangels do not revolve around whether the Earth is changing, specifically, but rather the number of people who are choosing to identify with a more positive way of being.  It is my knowing that more and more people are seeking love and wanting to share love.  They are rejecting negativity in their lives and instead choosing activities and relationships that bring them joy.  They are choosing to face their fears and heal old wounds that have been ignored for far too long.  

 

If what you are seeing is mostly negativity in your life than what you must ask yourself is not what is wrong with the world, but what is wrong with your way of thinking?  What kinds of beliefs are causing the world to reflect such negative images around you?  Like I have stated before, this is not a “fault finding task” and not meant to pull out things you should be ashamed of.  In fact, with the proper mindset, this can be a very liberating and empowering thing to do because you literally become the person who calls the shots and not the helpless individual who is at the mercy of circumstance.  

 

When you start to take this in to consideration you begin to change the question from an outward perspective to an inward perspective.  Once this has been done, the question becomes incredibly simple.  Is the world really changing?  No, not really.  What is changing is you, and that is all that really matters.  One of the best quotes I have ever heard on this topic sums this discussion up perfectly:

 

“The world does not need saving.  The world only needs to be loved”

 

Until next time,

 

My unconditional love to you.

 

Geoff

Being Honest

Being Honest

 

It may be one of the most underrated traits that a person can exhibit, that being the ability to look someone in the eye and be completely honest about how they feel.  Truth be told, it is probably one of the toughest challenges, I myself, have faced in this life time.  I can remember back to when I was a small child in grade school and how I was scolded for telling the teacher I didn’t want to participate in an activity because I found it scary.  I was trying to be honest about how I felt and in return I was made to feel that it didn’t matter.  I should just be able to keep my mouth shut and get along like the other children.  Over the years, because of my high level of sensitivity, I learned two very damaging lessons:

 

Telling the truth would lead to hurting someone’s feeling or cause me to be on the “outside”.

My feelings weren’t valid and therefore shouldn’t be trusted.

 

The inability to be honest about how you feel is such a disservice to the human collective consciousness that it may be the biggest contributor to why we have become so disconnected to the divine.  A connection that is now being restored, albeit at a pace that may be uncomfortable to some.  The level of discomfort can be directly linked to a person’s difficulty with being honest and thus the cycle begins to appear in one’s life.  From Angelic perspective, there is no better way to distinguish what choices should be made in ones life, and connecting to this power is as simple as asking a question:

 

How do I really feel?

 

If you are like me or had similar experiences than you will see the one major road block in using this kind of logic.  That road block comes in the form of not being able to trust your own emotions and thus an inability to be honest with yourself first.  Not being able to be honest with yourself will ultimately cause you to make decisions that are in someone else’s best interest and not your own.  This is where many in the spiritual community begin to pull away from conventional wisdom which teaches us to be self-less and sacrificing of our own desires for the betterment of others.  Truly, there is no greater risk to one’s health, happiness, and well being.

 

Now this is where a line in the sand can be drawn and an argument can be made which will state: 

 

Sometimes you just have to keep your true feelings to yourself in order to keep from hurting someone else’s feelings.  

 

Let me be clear about the kind of honesty I am referring to:

 

Real, true, honesty comes from a place of love not from the desire to hurt.  

 

While it is completely possible that being honest with someone may cause them to feel distress, if you were to ask yourself why you are choosing to say what you are saying, you would most likely answer that it is out of love that you comment the way you do.  One thing that I will make clear in this writing is that there is a difference between what is known as “blunt honesty” and “true honesty”.  When a person responds in a blunt way it has more to do with the opinion and desires of the person giving the response where as true honesty is about empathy and love for the person who is receiving the response.  

 

What needs to be considered is actually rather simple when you break it down.  Take a look at your life and see if you can pinpoint an area where you have a tendency to hide how you really feel.  Perhaps it is in your relationships or your professional life that you struggle to openly talk about what you believe is important or how certain circumstances are affecting you.  If this is the case, then the angels would challenge you to ask yourself how would your life be different if you were 100% honest about your true feelings in that area you identified?  How would your life look, and perhaps more importantly, how would you want it to look? 

 

Until next time,

 

My unconditional love to you!

 

Geoff