It may be one of the most underrated traits that a person can exhibit, that being the ability to look someone in the eye and be completely honest about how they feel. Truth be told, it is probably one of the toughest challenges, I myself, have faced in this life time. I can remember back to when I was a small child in grade school and how I was scolded for telling the teacher I didn’t want to participate in an activity because I found it scary. I was trying to be honest about how I felt and in return I was made to feel that it didn’t matter. I should just be able to keep my mouth shut and get along like the other children. Over the years, because of my high level of sensitivity, I learned two very damaging lessons:
Telling the truth would lead to hurting someone’s feeling or cause me to be on the “outside”.
My feelings weren’t valid and therefore shouldn’t be trusted.
The inability to be honest about how you feel is such a disservice to the human collective consciousness that it may be the biggest contributor to why we have become so disconnected to the divine. A connection that is now being restored, albeit at a pace that may be uncomfortable to some. The level of discomfort can be directly linked to a person’s difficulty with being honest and thus the cycle begins to appear in one’s life. From Angelic perspective, there is no better way to distinguish what choices should be made in ones life, and connecting to this power is as simple as asking a question:
How do I really feel?
If you are like me or had similar experiences than you will see the one major road block in using this kind of logic. That road block comes in the form of not being able to trust your own emotions and thus an inability to be honest with yourself first. Not being able to be honest with yourself will ultimately cause you to make decisions that are in someone else’s best interest and not your own. This is where many in the spiritual community begin to pull away from conventional wisdom which teaches us to be self-less and sacrificing of our own desires for the betterment of others. Truly, there is no greater risk to one’s health, happiness, and well being.
Now this is where a line in the sand can be drawn and an argument can be made which will state:
Sometimes you just have to keep your true feelings to yourself in order to keep from hurting someone else’s feelings.
Let me be clear about the kind of honesty I am referring to:
Real, true, honesty comes from a place of love not from the desire to hurt.
While it is completely possible that being honest with someone may cause them to feel distress, if you were to ask yourself why you are choosing to say what you are saying, you would most likely answer that it is out of love that you comment the way you do. One thing that I will make clear in this writing is that there is a difference between what is known as “blunt honesty” and “true honesty”. When a person responds in a blunt way it has more to do with the opinion and desires of the person giving the response where as true honesty is about empathy and love for the person who is receiving the response.
What needs to be considered is actually rather simple when you break it down. Take a look at your life and see if you can pinpoint an area where you have a tendency to hide how you really feel. Perhaps it is in your relationships or your professional life that you struggle to openly talk about what you believe is important or how certain circumstances are affecting you. If this is the case, then the angels would challenge you to ask yourself how would your life be different if you were 100% honest about your true feelings in that area you identified? How would your life look, and perhaps more importantly, how would you want it to look?
Until next time,
My unconditional love to you!